Toronto’s Slut Walk

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(Pictured from ctv.ca)

When a member of Toronto's City Police said: "Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized", outrage rang across the country. Once again, the implication was that women 'ask for it' — bring violence upon themselves, and deserve whatever they get because of what they wear.

The reaction?

SlutWalk Toronto.

Women marching to take back the word slut, tired of being called down and berated because of their choice in clothing or participation in sex work.

1. I wholeheartedly agree that no matter what a person is wearing or how a person is acting, there is absolutely no excuse for violence, verbal degradation, rape, lewd comments, pinches, touches, grabs, come-ons or other forms of sexual, physical, emotional and spiritual violence. I share the anger against the statements that were made by police and know this mindset to be prevelant for many. I want to make this point abundantly clear.

However…

2. As a woman, I am not a slut and taking back that name to prove a point is in poor taste. In fact, I find it to be wrong in every respect. Sexuality is sacred, and parading ourselves as women around how we wish, when we wish, for whomever we wish does not show liberation or pride, but a deep sense of selfishness, hubris, and a continued societal fixation on sex.

Society already sees women as sex objects to be toyed with, used, abused and spit out. While this effort of the SlutWalk is attempting to revert this very mindset, it is failing and is perpetuating the lie that women are nothing but eye candy. The woman may feel empowered, but her identity is so wrapped up in her breasts, butt, and hips that she fails to see the deeper, more powerful qualities she has been created with.

The Bible — a book of freedom, reconciliation, and truth for men and women — encourages women to dress modestly (I Tim 2:9). Modesty has become a dirty word in our society because women start think of button-up collars, and ankle-length dresses.

Hardly.

Modesty, in the purest sense of the word, is simply common fashion sense that draws attention to the woman's intelligence, sincerity, compassion, strength, courage, and struggles rather than outward appearance. The outward appearance draws attention to beauty that is fleeting, that is determined by society (even SlutWalks), that pressures little girls to dress and act like the women on Jershey Shore (see my post on Abercrombie and Fitch selling push-up bikinis for 7-year olds). I do not want my children, or anyone's children, drawing negative power from taking back a degrading name. It is unnessecary, and counter-acts the motivation to actually make positive change in our sex-charged society.

I see why these women organized the walk that they did. Truly, I do. Blaming the victims has done so much damage to men, women, and children over the years. The church is not innocent in this, either. However, I strongly object to this method of advocacy. We can do far better and aspire much higher than reclaiming an offensive name.

The Jesus I know and love peels back the layers of bad names, and beams with pride upon the beauty before Him. Just ask the woman at the well… she'll tell you the whole story.

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